Just remember, photographs are special and they are a reminder of your wedding day but don't get swept away and let the photographer steal you from your own wedding.
Here are a few of my own tips to help prevent that from happening:
1) Decide whats more important: a gazillion picture options or spending time with your friends and family and tell the photographer !
2) Make a list of "must have shots" so you and the photographer know what's really important ( do this and email to the photographer BEFORE wedding day)
3)Give any props to photographer and sample pictures if needed BEFORE the wedding
4) Think about doing a first look with your groom to allow less pressure to get shots done after the ceremony
5) start a file on your email or pinterest with photo ideas and looks so your photographer can tell you if they're doable
6) Always do the engagement session , even if you never use the pictures it allows the three of you to get comfortable with each other and see if you made the right choice for your wedding day
It is very easy for photographers and you to get caught up on the wedding day and miss half of the very expensive party you planned and paid for, so go in prepared with what you want and what's important.